Difficult Child

Difficult Children - Moody, Disobedient, Naughty

My child is moody and disobedient:

Most of a toddler's actions are aimed at attracting your attention. Thus, she may try speaking to you, crying, hitting you or annoying you. She is not particular whether the attention is positive or negative as long as she can catch your eye. Once you respond to her, she will smile or laugh at you. She will behave in an increasingly wilful manner in an attempt to assert her independence. Do not thwart her attempts at independence at every stage, although it may express itself as disobedience. This can lead to her developing a negative attitude in the future. Your baby will have frequent mood swings veering between extreme displays of affection and anger. The good news is that your child will become more participative in play and this is a good opportunity to teach them to share. 

How do I deal with a naughty child ?

A naughty child is one who knows the difference between right and wrong, but lacks the maturity to exert self-control and do the right thing. They are usually apologetic and contrite when caught. However, often you will find that they are doing the exact same thing you had scolded them for doing just an hour ago. You have to be very patient with naughty children. Initially, you should try the sympathetic approach, speaking to them frequently. If this fails, punishment becomes necessary. Corporal punishment is not an option. Restricting or withdrawing privileges is much more effective.  

My child does not seem to listen to me?

A disobedient child is one who deliberately flouts authority. Children like this really try your patience. A disobedient child is rarely contrite or apologetic. His defiance leads to confrontations. Remember that physical punishment is likely to lead to aggression and truculence on his part. A programme that is a combination of reasoning and positive reinforcement is recommended. Explain to the child that her activities are anti-social or dangerous and suggest how she should behave.  

Is my child being particularly difficult?

This is the time you will probably realize why this stage has been referred to as "the terrible twos." Nothing seems to be easy any more. You and your child just do not seem to understand each other. Your child is trying to spread her wings a little bit for the first time. She will constantly waver between asserting her independence and seeking your approval. She will become frustrated trying to do things for herself too soon. She will not allow you to help, although she may need your assistance. She will probably bite off more than she can chew in her quest to take charge of her life. This is an exasperating experience for you as you walk the fine line between encouraging her to be self-reliant and laying down the law.